It’s perfectly okay to be sad, and it’s okay to admit it. If something doesn’t work out the way you wanted it to, it’s alright to be afraid and to be sad. Sure, everything happens for a reason, and everything works out in the end, but in the given moment, being upset is okay. You don’t have to hide it or fight it…it doesn’t make you any less of a person, and you should never be ashamed of it. We’re only human and we can’t fight inevitable feelings or emotions. The more you fight it, the more you’re only hurting yourself. The next time something may not turn out the way you wanted it to, let your guard down, accept that you’re not happy at that exact moment, talk to someone you love about it, and maybe even cry a little. Sometimes even though you should always look to God to help you through your hardships, other people are also a huge help. Venting and crying to someone you love, here in the physical world, can help more than you think. Sadness doesn’t equal weakness. And it DEFINITELY does NOT equal the absence of faith. It is possible to be sad about a certain situation and still having faith and knowing that everything will work out in the end. Just food for thought.
Don’t emotionally push away the people who care most. If they ask if something’s wrong, tell them. If they ask if you’re okay, speak up and say that you’re not. If they push you to talk to them and open up to them, then do it. Deep down, you know the ones who truly care about you the most, so trust them, not the bystanders that you use to distract yourself from whatever you’re going through; not the acquaintances that don’t truly know the TRUE and complete you. No matter how many deep conversations you have with them, no matter how much you open up to them, they’ll never understand you, or care for you the way that the people who truly matter in your life do. Sure, they may offer decent support, lend a ear to listen, and offer good advice…but they don’t care like you want them to. It’s not fair to the people who truly want to help, and truly care SO much about you and your happiness, the people who would give their lives for you, to brush them to the side for these bystanders who aren’t truly there for you with everything they have. Let the people who actually want in, in. Let them help you. Let them be there for you. Let them care about you. Because that’s what they’re there for. They’re begging for it, and want to be there for you more than anything. Don’t ignore them. Don’t brush them off. Let them in. Because they matter the most.
Unfortunately, as humans, we aren’t able to turn off certain emotions and feelings. Certain emotions are inevitable and as much as we don’t want to feel a certain way, sometimes we can’t help it. Sometimes, I wish we could, though. I wish there was a switch to turn off certain feelings. And no, I’m not talking about being sad, or insecure, or anything like that because quite frankly, those things are changeable and you can turn them off, with a proper mind set. I’m talking about something much deeper. And I wish it was that easy to just change my mindset and change this emotion…but I can’t. It’s still there. And it makes life so much more complicated than it needs to be. Why don’t we get any say in this? And why must we be so vulnerable sometimes? Why can’t we decide that if we don’t want to feel a certain way, we don’t have to? Like I said, this is more than just a mindset thing…no change in mindset could ever turn this off. So what do I do? Do I just sit quietly and torture myself within and wait and hope for it to pass? Or do I do something about it, put it out there, and potentially ruin something extremely important to me?