Am I the only one who started singing that Brad Paisley song, Letter to Me, when I saw this topic?? “If I could write a letter to me, and send it back in time to myself at 17…” Nope? No one else? Alright, cool…moving on. Haha.
Anyway….there are a lotttt of things I’ve learned since I was a teenager. A LOT. I’m so different now and I’ve learned so much about the world, and myself. So here’s my letter.
Dear Teenage Jenn,
Okay, first things first. What are you doing?! Yeah that blonde hair is NOT doing it for you. Everyone is right…you look like a highlighter. Stop killing your hair. Trust me, you’ll thank me later. I promise. Also, step outside of your comfort zone a little bit…try new things you normally wouldn’t have, take risks, and have fun. It’s okay to change it up a bit and have have new adventures. Speaking of change, change is NOT always a bad thing. Change is a GREAT thing. EMBRACE it!! Stop dwelling and living in the past. Yeah, you’ll have some awesome times as a teenager, but that doesn’t mean you’ll never have good…even better times! People come and go out of your life. And those who want to stay in your life will, and those who don’t…well, don’t dwell on missing them, because those who are worth it, they’ll stay. People change, grow apart, and move on…and that’s all a part of life. You’ll have new, even better people come into your life, and give you even better memories.
Also, girl, you GOTTA learn to speak your mind more. It’s OKAY to say “no,” sometimes…it doesn’t make you mean. It’s great that you care about others…and never stop doing that, but you matter, too. Please don’t be a doormat. Put your foot down, and show your bitchy side when needed. Please, never text and drive!! And when you don’t have a green left arrow, you do NOT have the right away. Just pay attention to the road. Also, people aren’t as scary as you think they are. Being shy isn’t really working for ya’. Muster up that confidence I know you have, and be that outgoing girl I know you are at heart. Come out of your shell. It doesn’t matter how awkward you think you are, or how much you hate your voice. Just be you. You’ll meet tons of new people. And please, NEVER take the people in your life for granted. Because no one is invincible. And anything could happen. Let the people in your life know you care about them. Don’t push people away because you’re afraid that you care too much about them. That’s silly. Just because people in elementary and middle school were mean, doesn’t mean that no one else wants to be your friend. Because people do care about you. More than you know.
Keep that confidence you have, and continue not to care what people think. You’ve got the right idea there. Keep it up. Never change yourself for anyone. Continue living up to you morals and values and stay true to yourself. You’ll look back in a few years and be proud of that. When times get tough, just remember that EVERYONE goes through awful times, but it’s not the end of the world. It always gets better. Don’t let the bad times destroy you. Please. That’s just going to make you even more miserable. Just work on fixing yourself and working towards making everything better. You can’t fight fate, and what’s meant to happen, will happen. Everything really DOES happen for a reason. It may not make sense now, but it will in the end.
I know you’re probably thinking “yeah, yeah, yeah, I’ve heard it all before…,” but take it from your older and wiser self, who’s been through this. It’s all so true. I promise you. You’ll be okay. Everything will work out in the end. Don’t stress too much and just have faith everything will be okay in the end. You have SOOO much up ahead of you, and life gets so much better after your teenage years. High school is NOWHERE near the best years of your life. Start looking forward to the future. As the song says, “you’ll make it through this and you’ll see…you’re still around to write this letter to me.” :))